Before he died, Rabbi Zusya said: “In the world to come they will not ask me, ‘Why were you not Moses? They will ask me, ‘Why were you not Zusya?â€™â€
– Legend about Hasidic Rabbi Zusya of Hanipoli
I started to notice a couple of weeks ago that the talk on Facebook and among friends and family started getting very serious about Halloween costumes. Both children and adults alike were using lots of creativity to come up with the perfect costume. I guess Iâ€™m a creature of habitÂ because I never have to think about it – Iâ€™ve always dressed up as a witch for Halloween! Okay, no cracks about that if the costume fits, wear it! There has been some variety – Iâ€™ve been a scary witch, a good witch, a wacky witch, a sexy witch, but always a witch. Well, there was the time that I was a bag of jelly beans!
But, I digress…
All this costume talk made me think about how often we wear costumes and masks when itâ€™s not Halloween. We all have roles to fill – wife, mother, partner, career woman, community leader, member of a congregation, PTA chairperson, friend, daughter. I could go on…
We each have individual gifts we bring to those roles and to life, in general; gifts that are ours alone. The question is:Â How often do we, instead of using those gifts to present our authentic selves, present what we think others want to see and let our roles consume us?
Ask yourself: â€œAm I being ME and accepting and loving who I am and what I bring to the table?â€ Or, â€œAm I comparing myself to my â€˜skinny friendâ€™, still trying to win approval from my parents or working myself to death at a job I hate and trying to â€˜keep up with the Joneses?â€™â€
In this last couple of months of the year, take a lesson from nature as she moves into dormancy to regenerate for the coming spring: Slow way down and take a look at whatâ€™s important to you & why, what you love, what your â€˜non-negotiablesâ€™ are, who you are and what you stand for, so that you can emerge with integrity as the awesome, authentic YOU that you already are.
Ladies, it may be Halloween, but itâ€™s time to remove the mask!
Please leave your comments, questions and ideas below. And, remember, â€œIt is never too late to be what you might have been.â€ -George Eliot
With love from your partner on the path,
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