â€œLove yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.â€ â€“Â Lucille Ball
In my practice, I have worked with women for almost twenty years and one thing I know: Women know how to love.
They know how to love their spouse or partner; they know how to love their children; they know how to love their pets, and their community, and their parents, and their siblings, and their friends.
They show their love through the things they do for the people they love and they have a hard time saying, â€œNo,â€ to those in their circle of loved ones.
There is one person, though, that women seem to have a hard time loving – themselves. And, they have a hard time saying, â€œYes,â€ to her.
Iâ€™ve heard it all. â€œItâ€™s selfish to take care of myself; itâ€™s wrong to put myself at the top of the priority list; Iâ€™m not more important than my kids or my husband/partner, or anyone elseâ€¦â€
Okay, perhaps youâ€™re not MORE important than all those folks, yet arenâ€™t you AS important as they are?
We women are a fan of the Golden Rule. You know, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” What we seem unaware of, though, is that we ARE one of the others.
Do you treat YOURSELF as well as you treat others?
You show your child unconditional love. Do you show yourself unconditional love?
When your friend makes an unhealthy choice and eats too much chocolate cake, you give her a pep talk and show compassion. When you eat too much chocolate cake, do you show yourself compassion or do you shame yourself?
When your husband/partner makes a mistake, you forgive them. Do you forgive yourself when you make a mistake or beat yourself up over it?
I say letâ€™s flip the Golden Rule around. How â€˜bout, â€œDo onto yourself as you do unto others.â€
In that spirit, Iâ€™ve created an event for February, the month of love – The Self-Love Fest #SelfLoveFest. Each week, Iâ€™ll be writing about different aspects of self-love. And, each day on Facebook and Twitter, Iâ€™ll post a prompt to get you thinking about how you can love yourself more.
I hope youâ€™ll join me!
With love from your partner on the path,
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